Love,Big Love,Great Love

Love is which lasts for 2 months.

Big Love is which lasts for 2 years.

Great Love is which changeth the life of the person.Great Love knows no comparison.A lady in love feels her man as the BEST.A man in love feels his lady as the BEST.People in Great Love are everybody and everything to each other.

Hypocrisy ....

Not an unheard word.Not an unheard character.

Hypocrisy if put in words mean "Insincerity by virtue of pretending to have qualities or beliefs that you do not really have".Pretention in other word.

Many times we see people resorting to pretention to win heart of others, to win business , to impress people around themselves.Sometimes it surely turns out to lead to victory route but almost all the other times it results in fiasco and shattering of the relationship that has shaped up - be it business or professional or personal.

When a fresh graduate joins a job and gets going, he needs to develop good professional rapport with people working with him.All depends on how the guys around him project themselves.In the first few days or a few months, when the interaction with the team members is only at work place,person may intend to harbour a certain opinion about his team memebers.Some may be hypocritical in nature and tend to project theselves as what they are not.But the story doesn't last long and surely on one heart-breaking day, the person realizes that he wasnt' correct about some of them.He was being cheated.And then the professional relationship takes a deep dive down to an unrevocable state.Only if it had started honestly, this situation wouldn't have arisen.

Similarly, we also see such hypocrisy in relationship between so called friends.When one learns that his trust on someone was betrayed, friendship surely takes a whinning route.Unxpected happens when one least expects that to happen.We hear of cases when a guy and gal seeing each other for a year or two breaks up.Reason.The Guy learns that the gal wasn't what he was expecting.He was being cheaten.It is surely tough to gauge a person's psyche in some limited number of days.It just takes an unfortunate event to take place and u know the person who seems to love u the most is a Hypocrite.It hurts more than anything else under the sun as emotions,trust and faith are collectively involved in such a relationship.

Friendhip, on a professional as well as peronal level, blosoms only when the foundation is laid in true virtues of the participating people.Hypocrisy is something which just looks for an ugly day to raise its ugly head and then u know u were the fool to believe some one who always cheated you, who posed himself as some one who wasn't but who you wanted to be.

We always wish to be surrounded by good people, by the people in whom we can repose our faith. Some of us are fortunate and some of us are not.But whatever be it, aleast one should strive to be honest to himself and others. Hypocrisy should be BIG NO-NO.

Being an IITian....

"Don't judge others too quickly.I thought my son was useless because he didn't get into IIT.I tell you what,I was a useless father.It is great to get into IIT,but it is not the end of the world if you don't.All of you should be proud to have the IIT tag, but never ever judge anyone who is not from this institute- that alone can define the greatness of this institute."

This excerpt is from the best seller "Five Point Someone" by Chetan Bhagat and I quote it here because being an IITian,I firmly believe in the spirit embodied in the lines of the quote. Being humble and courteous with a sense of pride is what has been my learning.

How does it feel to be one of them?How high are the expectations of others ? or rather does the IIT tag make one to raise one's expectation from himself/herself? Myriad of questions and varying answers we might have.But whatever one has to say , this breed is undoubtedly a revered one.Exceptions surely abound when u can find people scornful about them.Reasons I could never find out.IITians are the confident lot and know for sure that the world is watching them.They are idiolized and that always instills a sense of pride in them.

But being an IITian, in my opinion, shouldn't be reflective of possessing certain common traits.Afterall it's just about graduating from one of the seven IITs.Undoubtedly they represent the elite guys of our country.And so they are expected to dream bigger and climb higher.But at the end of the day, it all boils down to the individual.And that makes each one of them different from the other.One shouldn't harbour a generic opinion about them.They span all the characters present on the earth- from being the stupdiest to the smartest, from the not-versatile to very-versatile, from very carefree to very responsible and so on.

I have many times experienced my faliures being linked to that of an IITian.Something I have always hated to hear.I would love to contribute to the glory of the IITs but it hurts to hear happening otherwise.An IITian is taught to be an achiever.If he achieves,hats off to IIT.If he fails, the failure is his and not that of an IIT.

Thinking on a different line, IITians are just a few among the vast lot of equally smart and brilliant engineers. Many are far better also.One way of looking at them is they got lucky on the crucial day and had a journey of privileged what many ud say.I guess it's all about knowing the oppurtunities and striving to grab them.Rest should be left to Lady Luck and to HIM.

The world-wide fame and brand equity that IITs have acquired in years is the contribution primarily of its alumni and that makes every IIT graduate feel as his duty to contribute to building up of the brand IIT.It has not just made IITians gain recognition world wide.Rather, the Indian Talent has got marketed on the World Stage.

I personally feel proud of the tag IIT and want to live by the high expectations of my own.It's all about enjoying the life to the fullest and striving to be a nice person.It's about being humble and courteous and inspiring others to be the same.It's about being honest to yourself and avoiding being hypocritical.

Confusion Confusion All Around......

Today I was just going through the Web looking for the meaning of chatting phrase 'ciao'. I discovered that it's not like any other chat acronyms but is an italian verbal salutation and greeting meaning 'goodbye' when used in English.

And then I thought of browsing through the list of chatting abbreviations we generally use.I googled the phrase "chatting abbreviations" and was thrown up with 3,310,000 search results. The third one led me to www.mistupid.com/internet/chattalk.htm.

I was particulary verifying the acronyms CYA,CU- the ones closer to ciao. And Oh God!! I found that 'CYA' means 'Cover your ass'. Really?? I have been using this phrase throughout my chatting years to gracefully say 'goodbye' to my chatting partners on Y!, gtalk and Sametime!!I always meant it as 'C U After'. I was confused for a moment.

But I had seen many of my frnds - a lot of female frnds too- also using the same phrase and hopefully with the same intention as I.They udn't have meant 'Cover You Ass'.Scarry Feeling!!

To reconfirm, I googled' CYA' and followed the second search result. It took me to en.wikipedia.org/wiki/CYA and from there I moved onto http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/List_of_Internet_slang_phrases.

And then I had a sigh of relief.The list confirmed that CYA also means 'CU After'.Phew!! A big realization indeed.'CYA' means 'Cover Ur Ass' as well as 'C U After'.Usage is contextual.

A lot of Confusion!!

Inspiration...

The other day I was going thru one of my dearest friends' blog and was truly inspired by his beautiful postings.He has great control over the English language and that makes his blogs exude literary brilliance.

That inspires me to read a lot to write much better than what I am doing now.Inspiration to write better.

Inspiration what I am talking about can be understood as "stimulation, motivation, incitement, spur" to do one's work.We sometimes idolize a person to get inspired and at other times we are self-motivated.

A poster in one of my team-mates' cube reads " A definitive way to see myself grow as a person is to surround myslef with people smarter than me!". A nice saying!! If we work with good people, that surely inspires us to do better and emerge as a better professional.

Mahatama Gandhi inspired the billion Indians to stir against the British Empire non-violently, Sania Mirza inspires the million Indian gals to dream bigger and taller, Sachin inspires the million Indian boys to think and dream cricket all the times....We see the phenomenon of inspiration rolling all around through all ages.

Personally, I am inspired by people around me who are very calm and cool and carry out their responsibilities without compromising their integrity,people who are practical and inspirational in their character,people who are caring and respectful in nature.

U too r inspired by someone or something! Rite? Nope? then U r self-motivated..:-)

A few sweet words...

Sweet words are easy to say, Sweet things are easy 2 buy,
But sweet people are difficult to find.

Life ends when U stop dreaming, Hope ends when U stop believing,
Love ends when U stop caring, Friendship ends when U stop sharing.

To love without condition, To talk without intention,
To give without reason, And to care without expectation is the heart of a truefriend... :-)

- Knahee se choree kiya....

Sorry...

Sorry- One of the most extensively used phrases in our daily life. I thought why not pen down something on this.

Oxford dictionary defines it as an adjective 1. sorry for his actions regretful, apologetic, repentant, penitent, remorseful, contrite, ashamed, conscience-stricken, guilt-ridden, in sackcloth and ashes, compunctious.

The phrase is used to show one's regret and apology at hurting some one close or at doing something unintended."I am Sorry" is an expression of humbleness and speaks of the caring and respectful nature of the person.The usage of the word is conscience-driven and serves as the measure of politeness of the person.

But the interpretation is surely contextual.Saying "Sorry" when you are being bullied, is show of one's cowardice.It's a way of providing strength to your enemy."Gandhigiri" may speak of tolerating your enemy but it doesn't preach yout to be coward and meek.

"Sorry" is the word of Humbles and not the Weaks.It's a powerful tool to maintain harmony and peace around us.It loses its effectiveness when used as an Excuse.U can't commit a crime and feel sorry about it.That's in itslef is making mockery of the strength of this word.

There went an opinion on the word "Sorry" !! What do U say?

Women are Beautiful...

Discovering the beauty of women has always been the ecstacy and preoccupation of men.I know many would love to differ.I respect their opinions.But from where I see, women form an integral part of men's life and vice-versa is also equally true.

Wait for a minute! Don't be illusioned reading this article that I have done some kind of study on human bahaviour or had a great experience learning the behaviour of women in particular.It's an article as immature as it could be.It's JUST an opinion.

Women are cognitively and emotionally very different from men.They complement men's characters.They tend to see what men see with a different perspective.They are good in arts and literature.Have gr8 memory and emotional IQ.

Yeah, they let tears roll out of their eyes in moments of grief and despair.But if you didn't know, then this is the best you to deal with such circumstances.Article titled "Cry your heart Out" on the " Mind Over Matter" page in 8th Oct issue of Sunday Times of India,Mumbai beautifully explains how has today's society been misled to believe that NOT Crying is the coolest thing U can do.Bad though!!They are disciplinarian in nature.But mind you in a very practical manner.That's the best part.And that helps men to get a little bit disciplined in her associationship.

The other day I was shuffling thru channels on my TV and I chanced upon "Man's World Show" airing on AXN.A must show for all human species on earth.I guess women would laugh on the tips provided to encounter/seduce them and men would gasp at how complicated the female species is.They had "Nikki" from Neal n Nikki and Amrita Arora as guests on the show to unfold the mystery that the woman is.Oh gosh!! they were all gung-ho detailing how women are the better lot.How good they are at lieing and getting away with it.How good are they at multi-tasking and juggling with multiple hunks-cum-bakaras .Yeah the guys know that!!

Surely the female gender is a complicated one.At times they suffer from "attitude" problem.In some cases, they may be completely different from what they appear to be.They have penchant to first test and then taste.A practical approach indeed.But they are beautiful.One needs to break into the seemingly complicated self and discover the inner self- the beautiful inner self. Fortunate are the men who are able to do that as it needs the winning of woman's heart and her trust.A tough task indeed!!

Life is like that. Discovering the beauty hidden within in a hard way.Frustration and dejection come in the way. But afterall that happens with every thing, with every goal we set to achieve.
I guess life becomes more beautiful with such pursuits.We are born to live once.Shouldn't we live to disover the beautiful things around? For Men, Woman is One of Them.

To all the guys.Have happy time discovering the beauty of Women!!

Focus - necessity of the day

It's 1:08 pm by my watch.It's Thursday today.I am at home trying to compile this post. I work in CSC.I shuld have been in the office hitting the IBM keyboard to get some code up and runningon Mainframe. But I m not.

What ud have made me sit and write this post at this time? There are numerous.But one reason stands out.A few days back I was watching 'Titanic' on Star Movies.Remember the scene where DeCaprio is painting the portrait of Kate Winslet with only diamond necklace on her.She asks, "arent' you blushing, Mr painter" and Decaprio replies, "it's all about painting the landscape". That's focus.Focus of a painter, an artist.

We all are artists in one way or the other.And definitely needs to be focussed to get going happily in our life.Focus helps us to set and define our priorities as at any point of time in our life we may have a lot of things to achieve and accomplish.But it's only human to not able to achieve all of them with perfection.And this is where focus and setting priorities come up.

Remember the college days.Some guys would be too busy working to score perfect 10.Toiling day and nite to impress the Profs. Some would be sleeping all the day with bottle of whisky on study table, bunking classes, living on proxies. Some could always be found hanging out with gals or loitering in vicinity of gal's hostel.All were focussed in one way or the other. One decided to focus on studies, the other on enjoying life and the another one on flirting. Acceptable.

But yeah what was the rite decision? No one knows. It's the person himself who has to take that decision and that what takes him to a different route.But yeah u have to be focussed.That's the bottomline.

I remember when we would tease some of our friends in my grad year who had the penchant of always being found at Nescafe with one or the other gal.We would ask,,"Bhaiya, be Focussed.".And the reply ud happen to be anything from "I am enjoying spending time with them" to "I am testing her ATTITUDE" to "AM trying to FOCUS".Guys know what they r doing.Gals know what they r doing.Focus could be different.Both of them may live in illusions.

Focus is required to achieve some purpose.Purpose which unflolds easy going life for one. Fillers around that Purpose may not require Focus.

Lecture on Focus ends here.Have a Nice time Focussing (on) the rite things;-)

"Professionalism" - my interpretation..

It's been 2 years working in the IT industry and like every IT junta I have learnt the bads and goods of this Industry...

The Industry is so large that u can't miss finding the variety of junta u may be loooking for.Uniqness of personalities brings flavor to the working environment,makes it lively and surely challenging.U can find people talking about being professional synonymus with being smart in our daily life.When I was in college, I was intrigued by the term "bein practical" and when I joined industry I fell into the trap of "being professional". What the hell this means?

Professionalism as many define is all about being smart enuf to return home from workplace unscathed.To work no more than what u r being paid for i.e no of hrs to work ~ amount of paisa coming to one's salary a/c.Nice definitions!!

But when a defintion hints of being irresponsible, I would say that's an unacceptable one and such a smartness is self defeating and void in nature.Many times people tend to believe and practice such a hollow definition of professionalism.They laugh at others when they forget that they themselves are the center stage of laughter.Sooner or later they learn the lesson of true professionalism.

In my opinion, professionalism is all about being responsible, being able to motivate others to be the same.It' s about being interested in contributing to the cohesiveness of a team.It's about respecting each other's potentials , rather than coronating oneself as the "smarter" one.Believe me that's suicidal and self-mockery of oneself. Smart is okay,Smarter may not be.It's certainly difficult to have flamboyant personal relationship with evryone at the work-place but we can always have good professional relationship with every1.Afterall that matters more at the work-place. Professional smartness is not at all about being able to mange to work less and pass on the blame for the same to others.Such an smartness is illusionary in nature.It may work somehwere but is bound to put one in deep shit at every other place.

I guess I shud put FULL STOP now.So it goes here.

My take on "five point someone"...

"This is a work of fiction, but fiction needs real inspiration.I love them all so much that I could literally write a book on them."
- Chetan Bhagat, author of "five point someone"

Here is a marvellous literary work by an ex-IITian, a 1995 batch IITD graduate.A real gripping gatha of campus life at IIT.

I don't have to say much about the novel.It's a class in itself. It's flawless,lucid,very true and makes a gr8 reading for any IITian or non-IITian. I could relive my IITR days for the 5 hrs I devoted to completing this novel.An amazing story.A four-year ordeal of 3 bosom friends to survive the IIT system with touching love story between Hari, one of the three friends and Neha, a Prof's daughter.A tale of 3 friends copping up with their 5.X GPA, a fallout of "system of realtiveness" at IITs.

Read for yourself and I guarantee u won't disappoint urself ,rather you ud get inspired to pen down some article in praise as I am doing rite now:-)

I found some phrashes and paras in the novel very striking and touching and so decided to pen them down here .

The best one

"Two,don't judge others too quickly.I thought my son was useless because he didn't get into IIT.I tell you what,I was a useless father.It is great to get into IIT,but it is not the end of the world if you don't.All of you should be proud to have the IIT tag, but never ever judge anyone who is not from this institute- that alone can define the greatness of this institute."

"Alok recalculated his score,hoping for some miracle to happen on the calculator.But miracles never happen in IIT, only crape grades do.

"See that is the thing.Once you get a GPA in IIT,everyone has an opinion abou it, about you, even if it's a fashion design student."

"She held my hand,though she hadn't stopped laughing.What is so funny to women all the time? And why do I still find her so beautiful? And why the hell can't I kiss her?"

"Girls are beautiful, let's face it, and life is quite, quite worthless without them."

""How's Neha?"Alok said.
"She is fine.That is the only thing that keeps me in IIT,"I said. "

"Cooperate to Dominate.The IIT system is unfair because:
1.It suppresses tlent and individual spirit.
2.It extracts the best years of one's life from the country's brightest minds.
3.It judges you with a draconian GPA system that destroys relationships.
4.The profs don't care for the students.
5.IITs have hardly contributed to the country."


"How did I get here? I was topper in my school all my life.That is how I got into IIT,right? But then why I am now a low-perfomer, five-point something cheat sitting on the insti roof at midnight,unsure of my future?"

""It is about knowledge.And making the most of the system,even if it has flaws.And it is about not listening to bloody Ryan all the time,"I said."

""Oh Neha,don't cry,"I said, probably to make her cry a bit more.I can't tell how good it feels when a girl cries because she missed you."

PYAAR bahut hee complex cheez hai;-)

Pyaar aankhon se jataya to bura maan gaye,
Haal-e-Dil humne sunaya to bura maan gaye,
Woh to har roz rulaya kartee hai,
Ek roz humne rulaya to bura maan gaye....

Agar hoti ye pyaar ki rahen itni aasan
to isme itni kasme khane ki jaroorat na hoti,
agar samajh hi jati ye duniya pyaar ko itni aasani se
to sayad Sajahah ko taj banane ki jaroorat na hoti...


Dil Ki Nazuk Dhadkano Ko
Mere Sanam Tumne Dhadakna Sikha Diya
Jab Se Mila Hai Tera Pyaar Dil Ko,
Gam Mai Bhi Muskurana Sikha Diya.


Woh mausam wo bahar uske samne kam thi,
Saath guzra hua waqt woh fiza kam thi....
Door to aakhir hona hi tha zalim,
Kya kare in haathon me saath rahne ki lakirein hi kam thi...

Kab unki palko so izhaar hoga,
dil ke kisi kone mein hamare liye pyar hoga,
guzar rahi hai raatein unki yaad mein,
kabhi to unko humse milne ka intezaar hoga.

- Compiled from Net

Let me run backwards to My School Life;-)

Years have passed when I got separated with "my school days".The bereavemnet was no less than when we lose some one very dear in our life.We wish to relive those days ,to enjoy those golden moments of our life.Alas! we can't do that.We can only recall the memories of the passed days and try to be happy talking them.How harsh it is:-(( Wish We could fly to our past and spend some moments and come back to our present...;-)

I remember the bunch of lies I used to keep in stock to evade the scolding for spending the pocket money for a week in just a day,the scolding from dad during so called "study time", punishment from seemingly nice lady teachers in my kindergarten days, sharing the tiffin of dear friends in the recess period and many such more moments.

I remember one day in my KG class when one Fat Lady Teacher put chilly lipistic on my lips for abusing one of my friends while fighting with him.U can understand what ud have happended to this the then innocent child:-( Some of the memories of your past get imprinted so firmly on your subconscious mind that it is hard to erase them.It's once of them:-(

As the days passed on , I moved on to higher classes ( that means I managed to keep passing;-)) and had stories of my own.Failing in the subject of MATHS in classs 4 and then scoring cent percent in class 7 is one of the most mysterious thing that has happened to my life.I firmly believe that it couldn't have happened without help of GOD and that proves that GOD exists ;-)

And ofcourse how I can forget the days when I used to sneak out of my home in the afternoon, when my parents ud be asleep , to play cricket with bunch of my school buddies.Cricket was one game.Then "Gullee-dantaa" was another.Playing Desi Hockey on verandah of a common friend.Football in the backyards of a common friend.Game of "Keet-keet" involving both male and feamle buddies...how eventful was that life.....

And do I remember playing any indoor games?Yes the favorite one was "Chor-Sippaahee". Then all time favorite of all , Ludo and Snake&Ladders.The game of Hauzy (have i spelled it correctly?). Many others that I have forgotten and there are lots which I haven't played.I am discovering a lot of them from some of my team-mates at my work place:-).

Honestly speaking, I got into studious mode in my student life from class 9 ownwards and then there was no looking back.I remember being very shy with my female classmates and the worst part was that I never approached any of them inspite of some of them very beautiful and intelligent and being great fan of mine;-)If you don't care for others, you shouldn't expect any such favor in return.

Days of Class 11 and 12 were mostly focussed on studies.Being far form home had its own challenges.I know I didn't made the best use of those 2 years.Though results weren't bad given I made it to one of the most reputed colleges of our country and that's gonna help me in a big way at every stage of my life, but I could have been more versatile than I am today.

Talking of the "school days" is one of the all time favorite topics and it truly brings out some of the best moments we have lived in our lfe.

Run-Up to the Soccer World Cup 2006

Soccer World Cup 2006 is here.Countdown has started.Soccer aficionados are waiting crazily for the kick-off day. Rn't U? I am.Come 9 th June and I don't know whether I shall be able to give enuf time to my profession and day dreaming about her;-) Soccer is such a game of passion.

As run-up to the biggest event in soccer at Germany this year, our company(CSC)'s Indore center organized soccer tournament for the crazy soccer lovers.Five teams came out with the list of their star footballers (I shud better talk football than soccer:-)). Teams were X-Busters,Phoenix Blues,Mavericks United,AL Stars and Galaxy Stars each consisting of 8 players.40/400 people participating in the event.Isn't it an amazing ratio? Such is the spirit of playing football that prevails at CSC Indore center. Out of those 40 stars, I was also one playing for X-busters as the team's striker.

The tournament kicked-off with Phoenix Blues as the favorite and AL stars as the rookie.X-busters,Mavericks United and Galaxy Stars were teams each with one or two regular football players and posed gr8 threats to the Haughty Big, Phoenix Blues.

It was the first match.Between Phoenix Blues and my team. First half of 20 mins was a gr8 show of skills by both of the teams.Score read 2-1 in favor of the Blues by the end of 1st half.Second half began and we showed some grit to level the score.But our disappointing finishing shots always eluded us the levelling score.The Blues, true to their potential showed a majestic display of game and put us down by 4-1 by the final whistle.That helped them to stamp their edge right from the DAY 1.

As the days of the tournamnet progressed, AL stars kept losing their matches with all other teams and surprisingly losing all of them by a margin of 5 goals.On the other side, Phoenix Blues kept winning all of their matches by good margins.My team showed some gr8 play but couldn't win any of the league matches expect te one with AL Stars.Such was my luck that inspite of making some great moves and getting clean-goal oppurtunities, I couldn't shoot any goal.I remained goalless.Friends outside the field used to say,"Manish yaar , u played gr8.But Luck was not on your side.Goal ke mamle mein tum unlucky ho."I knew , it was more coz of my nervousness in the penalty area that I failed to score than my bad luck.But anyways,words of praise for good show of play, pouring in from all the sides helped me to console myself to a great extent and I always looked forward to score in the next match.But that eluding goal never came in any of the next matches:-((

At the end of the league matches, the four teams expect AL stars made it to the semi-finals and our team was once again poised against the still undefeated Phoenix Blues.We were awaiting eagerly for this clash and hoped to reverse the first clash's score.A Big Hope but Not an Impossible Hope.

The match started with gr8 zeal and to much of our expectations we showed a gr8 game-play.We hardly gave any chance to the Blues to penetrate our strong defence and our strikers consistently kept on challenging thier defence with great moves and co-ordination in the front-line.But thanks to my VOW to NOT to score any goal I missed some of the gr8 oppurtunities I got in the first half.I can't forget those two oppurtunities when it was just me and the goalkeeper across the flying football.And both of my shots went into the safe hands of the goalkeper avoiding such a large dia of goal post.I don't know how much my team members cursed me for those unforgivable misses but atleast I know this that they kept me saying that I cud do it and just neeeded to be focused and put one shot in the right area. First half was really entertaining.We could see the Mighty Blues sweating out of fear of losing the game.They ud have never dreamt to lose the game on such a big day, the semifinal.But the fear was real and we cud see that on their faces.The second half started with equal vigor but as the match progressed our team started to show the loosening of their grip on the ball and much to our disappointment and to the Blues' ecstasy , they put 4 goals in our goalpost in the last 10 minutes.A pathetic ending to the gr8 start.I cudn't forgive my lost chances.It was me who lost the match for my team.But nothing cud be done now.We were out of the race to the Cup and more depressingly, I remained goalless throughout the whole tournament.To say a good striker, but not able to score any goal.Sounds so funny but this is the harsh truth I am living with.

Mavericks United was the other team who made it to to final to set clash with the yet Invincible Phoenix Blues.The final was surely a good game but ended in an expected result and the Blues went on to win the Cup with a convincing winning score of 2-0. Good team surely deserved to be the winner but I knew our team could defeat theirs had I played with more intelligence and focus.

Kaash wo wanha hotee
mujhe protsaheet karne ke liye,
Mein ye abhaaga goalless Manish
ek goal kar paya hota.

;-)

Hasna Jarooree Hai!!!

In the last few weeks, I have been made to realize by my team at my work-place that I am gonna be christened as the "Laughter Trigger Prince" (Prince makes me feel better;-)) of my team and it seems the day is not far away when my team shall raise toast for me in celebration of that. How scary I feel day- dreaming of the events!!:-)))

I am very well known for my penchant for coming out with out of the blue one-liners. I remember doing so at movies time in our hostel rooms in my undergrad years, on the trip to Panchmarhi with my previous team,on the tour to Goa with my gang of CSC friends on the new year celebration,at snacks time in CSC canteen with my team members,during the lengthy bakkar session with my team mates.So when do I don't do that? Hardly anytime:-)

These one-liners have often bagged me advice from my dear friends on being careful while using them with people senior to me.Whenever I get such an advice, I speak in my mind to my dear friend,"I understand your concerns,dear.But Manish with friends behaves differently to Manish with senior people.Extrapolation works fine for Stock Market, not for an indvidual's behaviour.I do keep in my mind what I have to say and when:-))"

It's not just my one-liners that make people do ha-ha,ho-ho,he-he but sometimes they get to laugh for some wrong reasons also.I am still compiling the list of "those wrong reasons" and once complete I shall surely post them here.That shall surely a make a fun-to-read list;-)

Sometimes I feel , I make people laugh to their hearts for free when many people earn handsomely for doing the same by preaching "Hasya Yoga".A missed oppurtunity for me!!

Hasna Jarooree Hai... doesn't matter whether u r watching Ram Gopal Verma's Darna Jaroore Hai or a comedy sop on the idiot-box coz afterall Laughter is the best medicine.But yes words of advice.Hasna is not at all Jarooree at other's weaknesses.That's more of rediculing the individual than amusing yourself.Many might take it lightly while others might get offended also.

SHYNESS puts you on BACKSEAT in Life...Really??

"Hey Man!! Be bold...be confident.."
"Beta Lazaate nahee hai... "

Common reverberating phrashes we keep listening as we grow up in our LIFE... We all try hard to abide by these sayings but not each of us succeed...but does it really matter? and am I correct in saying that every one of us do try hard to grow confident,outspoken and extrovert (the mother of ALL)? Who cares?

But yup, I believe in the fact that "Shyness surely pulls u back at times when U need to step up and deliver".It could be an occasion as professional as making a speech infront of a completely unacquainted audience or an occasion as romantic as proposing to the lady of your love or even saying a few words of admiration to her.

I put myself in the category of AMBIVERT. At times I have proved myself a dumb a** by being reluctant( or better SHY) to speak out my heart but antagonistically at many times I have also
been very expressive and outspoken with my friends and dear ones. And in day to day life, my ambiversion rules.

What about you? Are you Shy? Not able to fight for your rights because u can't confront and speak on face?Not able to talk to her because u think a lot than cud happen? Here is the tip.Renounce your bloody Shyness and wear the hat of Confidence and everythig would fall in place.So easy to say but equally tough to follow.This is what Life is all about.

"Trust" isn't just a 5 Letter Word...

Do u remember some thing of this sort - "Protein is the building block of human body"? HeHe.Such a commonplace fact.

"Trust is the building block of any relationship" is equally commonplace.But then since I have chosen this as a title of this post, let me put my own views over here.That will make it different from what u might have read before.Rite!!

Friendhsip between two persons sprouts on the ground of certain similarities and then blosoms with each passing day.What keeps it going? Not the kick-off parameters of attraction,likeness,similarity in characters... Believe me none of those craps help.It's largely because of the kind of trust and faith two persons share between them. Haven't you ever experienced that? Ofcourse you would have if you possess a bosom friend.

I have had such brushes of expereince and was reminded of the fact that you owe as much to ur male/female friend as much as he/she to you. Trust, I meant. If he/she happens to confide in you regardless of his/her personal or professional interests, you also need to do the same.Because listening to others story is so pleasing but sharing your own, when it can have profound impact if revealed, is when Trust is tested. Many a times you forget that or are misinterpreted and the relationship can be seen gasping for life. Trusting anyone is really a very very difficult task.For the simple reason as it involves understanding the person in totality before u do that.

Gr8 friends are able to do that.They are gr8 support to each other in times of difficulty and need.Trust helps one to forego every LITTLE thing and think about BIG things in a relationship.I have expereinced it with some of my close male/female friends.

Do u think even now that Trust is just a 5 letter word?

Am I suffering from Acute Amnesia?

It seems that now-a-days I have started taking my life extraordinarly serious and in the process have damaged my brain cells leading to frequent embarassing forgetfulness.Sounds so serious and pitiable!!! I know u must be praying for the "untruthfulness" of this fact because I not only pray for the same when I am wide awake but also in my dreams.....

The other day I forgot that "Nokia" is not a sports shoe brand but a famous mobile brand.Otherwise why should have I asked my dear colleague and friend that whether he is wearing "Nokia's Shoes". U can say it as slip of tongue.I would also love to say that.But too many slips of tongue lead to too much of embarassement and it's better to assume urself as a diseased person than a healthy one with such a grave defect.

I often forget the names of people I interact very seldom even though I might have shared some good moments with them in the past.And the embarassement befalls when the guy happens to meet me greeting " Hello Manish!!" with a smile on his face and I, thanks to my gr8 memory,am able to say just "Hi" though I would have loved to say "Hi X" where X is the first name of the person.Medication is not the cure,determination to improve my memory surely is. Why do I say so?

Simple. A few months back I used to remember only one mobile number, ofcourse, just mine( thugh I have put that too in my contact list in case my memory plays the spoilsport).I didn't remember even my home number.Sounds so pathetic. Then one fine day I determined to engrave my home number in my brain and suprisingly now it's on my tongue all the times.And ofcourse I would hate to forget her number but you never know. Life is like that!!

And yes my Sametime - Offical IM - passwd.Should I give u a hint how tough is it? 44%#F34KU69C happens to be the template. A few weeks back I couldn't manage to remember it.But today it's on my tongue.A marked improvement.Don't u think so?

So again I ask myself - Am I suffering from Acute Amnesia? The answer is a BIG YES if I am an escapist and a BIG NO if I recognize the fact that it's just one's mental framework that leads one to feel so.

So should I be happy with the fact that in a few days to come I will surely remember that Nokia is a mobile brand and Nike a sport shoes brand and not vice-versa.Only time will tell.Or do I also have stake in that. YES, I do have.