Hypocrisy ....

Not an unheard word.Not an unheard character.

Hypocrisy if put in words mean "Insincerity by virtue of pretending to have qualities or beliefs that you do not really have".Pretention in other word.

Many times we see people resorting to pretention to win heart of others, to win business , to impress people around themselves.Sometimes it surely turns out to lead to victory route but almost all the other times it results in fiasco and shattering of the relationship that has shaped up - be it business or professional or personal.

When a fresh graduate joins a job and gets going, he needs to develop good professional rapport with people working with him.All depends on how the guys around him project themselves.In the first few days or a few months, when the interaction with the team members is only at work place,person may intend to harbour a certain opinion about his team memebers.Some may be hypocritical in nature and tend to project theselves as what they are not.But the story doesn't last long and surely on one heart-breaking day, the person realizes that he wasnt' correct about some of them.He was being cheated.And then the professional relationship takes a deep dive down to an unrevocable state.Only if it had started honestly, this situation wouldn't have arisen.

Similarly, we also see such hypocrisy in relationship between so called friends.When one learns that his trust on someone was betrayed, friendship surely takes a whinning route.Unxpected happens when one least expects that to happen.We hear of cases when a guy and gal seeing each other for a year or two breaks up.Reason.The Guy learns that the gal wasn't what he was expecting.He was being cheaten.It is surely tough to gauge a person's psyche in some limited number of days.It just takes an unfortunate event to take place and u know the person who seems to love u the most is a Hypocrite.It hurts more than anything else under the sun as emotions,trust and faith are collectively involved in such a relationship.

Friendhip, on a professional as well as peronal level, blosoms only when the foundation is laid in true virtues of the participating people.Hypocrisy is something which just looks for an ugly day to raise its ugly head and then u know u were the fool to believe some one who always cheated you, who posed himself as some one who wasn't but who you wanted to be.

We always wish to be surrounded by good people, by the people in whom we can repose our faith. Some of us are fortunate and some of us are not.But whatever be it, aleast one should strive to be honest to himself and others. Hypocrisy should be BIG NO-NO.

Being an IITian....

"Don't judge others too quickly.I thought my son was useless because he didn't get into IIT.I tell you what,I was a useless father.It is great to get into IIT,but it is not the end of the world if you don't.All of you should be proud to have the IIT tag, but never ever judge anyone who is not from this institute- that alone can define the greatness of this institute."

This excerpt is from the best seller "Five Point Someone" by Chetan Bhagat and I quote it here because being an IITian,I firmly believe in the spirit embodied in the lines of the quote. Being humble and courteous with a sense of pride is what has been my learning.

How does it feel to be one of them?How high are the expectations of others ? or rather does the IIT tag make one to raise one's expectation from himself/herself? Myriad of questions and varying answers we might have.But whatever one has to say , this breed is undoubtedly a revered one.Exceptions surely abound when u can find people scornful about them.Reasons I could never find out.IITians are the confident lot and know for sure that the world is watching them.They are idiolized and that always instills a sense of pride in them.

But being an IITian, in my opinion, shouldn't be reflective of possessing certain common traits.Afterall it's just about graduating from one of the seven IITs.Undoubtedly they represent the elite guys of our country.And so they are expected to dream bigger and climb higher.But at the end of the day, it all boils down to the individual.And that makes each one of them different from the other.One shouldn't harbour a generic opinion about them.They span all the characters present on the earth- from being the stupdiest to the smartest, from the not-versatile to very-versatile, from very carefree to very responsible and so on.

I have many times experienced my faliures being linked to that of an IITian.Something I have always hated to hear.I would love to contribute to the glory of the IITs but it hurts to hear happening otherwise.An IITian is taught to be an achiever.If he achieves,hats off to IIT.If he fails, the failure is his and not that of an IIT.

Thinking on a different line, IITians are just a few among the vast lot of equally smart and brilliant engineers. Many are far better also.One way of looking at them is they got lucky on the crucial day and had a journey of privileged what many ud say.I guess it's all about knowing the oppurtunities and striving to grab them.Rest should be left to Lady Luck and to HIM.

The world-wide fame and brand equity that IITs have acquired in years is the contribution primarily of its alumni and that makes every IIT graduate feel as his duty to contribute to building up of the brand IIT.It has not just made IITians gain recognition world wide.Rather, the Indian Talent has got marketed on the World Stage.

I personally feel proud of the tag IIT and want to live by the high expectations of my own.It's all about enjoying the life to the fullest and striving to be a nice person.It's about being humble and courteous and inspiring others to be the same.It's about being honest to yourself and avoiding being hypocritical.

Confusion Confusion All Around......

Today I was just going through the Web looking for the meaning of chatting phrase 'ciao'. I discovered that it's not like any other chat acronyms but is an italian verbal salutation and greeting meaning 'goodbye' when used in English.

And then I thought of browsing through the list of chatting abbreviations we generally use.I googled the phrase "chatting abbreviations" and was thrown up with 3,310,000 search results. The third one led me to www.mistupid.com/internet/chattalk.htm.

I was particulary verifying the acronyms CYA,CU- the ones closer to ciao. And Oh God!! I found that 'CYA' means 'Cover your ass'. Really?? I have been using this phrase throughout my chatting years to gracefully say 'goodbye' to my chatting partners on Y!, gtalk and Sametime!!I always meant it as 'C U After'. I was confused for a moment.

But I had seen many of my frnds - a lot of female frnds too- also using the same phrase and hopefully with the same intention as I.They udn't have meant 'Cover You Ass'.Scarry Feeling!!

To reconfirm, I googled' CYA' and followed the second search result. It took me to en.wikipedia.org/wiki/CYA and from there I moved onto http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/List_of_Internet_slang_phrases.

And then I had a sigh of relief.The list confirmed that CYA also means 'CU After'.Phew!! A big realization indeed.'CYA' means 'Cover Ur Ass' as well as 'C U After'.Usage is contextual.

A lot of Confusion!!

Inspiration...

The other day I was going thru one of my dearest friends' blog and was truly inspired by his beautiful postings.He has great control over the English language and that makes his blogs exude literary brilliance.

That inspires me to read a lot to write much better than what I am doing now.Inspiration to write better.

Inspiration what I am talking about can be understood as "stimulation, motivation, incitement, spur" to do one's work.We sometimes idolize a person to get inspired and at other times we are self-motivated.

A poster in one of my team-mates' cube reads " A definitive way to see myself grow as a person is to surround myslef with people smarter than me!". A nice saying!! If we work with good people, that surely inspires us to do better and emerge as a better professional.

Mahatama Gandhi inspired the billion Indians to stir against the British Empire non-violently, Sania Mirza inspires the million Indian gals to dream bigger and taller, Sachin inspires the million Indian boys to think and dream cricket all the times....We see the phenomenon of inspiration rolling all around through all ages.

Personally, I am inspired by people around me who are very calm and cool and carry out their responsibilities without compromising their integrity,people who are practical and inspirational in their character,people who are caring and respectful in nature.

U too r inspired by someone or something! Rite? Nope? then U r self-motivated..:-)

A few sweet words...

Sweet words are easy to say, Sweet things are easy 2 buy,
But sweet people are difficult to find.

Life ends when U stop dreaming, Hope ends when U stop believing,
Love ends when U stop caring, Friendship ends when U stop sharing.

To love without condition, To talk without intention,
To give without reason, And to care without expectation is the heart of a truefriend... :-)

- Knahee se choree kiya....

Sorry...

Sorry- One of the most extensively used phrases in our daily life. I thought why not pen down something on this.

Oxford dictionary defines it as an adjective 1. sorry for his actions regretful, apologetic, repentant, penitent, remorseful, contrite, ashamed, conscience-stricken, guilt-ridden, in sackcloth and ashes, compunctious.

The phrase is used to show one's regret and apology at hurting some one close or at doing something unintended."I am Sorry" is an expression of humbleness and speaks of the caring and respectful nature of the person.The usage of the word is conscience-driven and serves as the measure of politeness of the person.

But the interpretation is surely contextual.Saying "Sorry" when you are being bullied, is show of one's cowardice.It's a way of providing strength to your enemy."Gandhigiri" may speak of tolerating your enemy but it doesn't preach yout to be coward and meek.

"Sorry" is the word of Humbles and not the Weaks.It's a powerful tool to maintain harmony and peace around us.It loses its effectiveness when used as an Excuse.U can't commit a crime and feel sorry about it.That's in itslef is making mockery of the strength of this word.

There went an opinion on the word "Sorry" !! What do U say?

Women are Beautiful...

Discovering the beauty of women has always been the ecstacy and preoccupation of men.I know many would love to differ.I respect their opinions.But from where I see, women form an integral part of men's life and vice-versa is also equally true.

Wait for a minute! Don't be illusioned reading this article that I have done some kind of study on human bahaviour or had a great experience learning the behaviour of women in particular.It's an article as immature as it could be.It's JUST an opinion.

Women are cognitively and emotionally very different from men.They complement men's characters.They tend to see what men see with a different perspective.They are good in arts and literature.Have gr8 memory and emotional IQ.

Yeah, they let tears roll out of their eyes in moments of grief and despair.But if you didn't know, then this is the best you to deal with such circumstances.Article titled "Cry your heart Out" on the " Mind Over Matter" page in 8th Oct issue of Sunday Times of India,Mumbai beautifully explains how has today's society been misled to believe that NOT Crying is the coolest thing U can do.Bad though!!They are disciplinarian in nature.But mind you in a very practical manner.That's the best part.And that helps men to get a little bit disciplined in her associationship.

The other day I was shuffling thru channels on my TV and I chanced upon "Man's World Show" airing on AXN.A must show for all human species on earth.I guess women would laugh on the tips provided to encounter/seduce them and men would gasp at how complicated the female species is.They had "Nikki" from Neal n Nikki and Amrita Arora as guests on the show to unfold the mystery that the woman is.Oh gosh!! they were all gung-ho detailing how women are the better lot.How good they are at lieing and getting away with it.How good are they at multi-tasking and juggling with multiple hunks-cum-bakaras .Yeah the guys know that!!

Surely the female gender is a complicated one.At times they suffer from "attitude" problem.In some cases, they may be completely different from what they appear to be.They have penchant to first test and then taste.A practical approach indeed.But they are beautiful.One needs to break into the seemingly complicated self and discover the inner self- the beautiful inner self. Fortunate are the men who are able to do that as it needs the winning of woman's heart and her trust.A tough task indeed!!

Life is like that. Discovering the beauty hidden within in a hard way.Frustration and dejection come in the way. But afterall that happens with every thing, with every goal we set to achieve.
I guess life becomes more beautiful with such pursuits.We are born to live once.Shouldn't we live to disover the beautiful things around? For Men, Woman is One of Them.

To all the guys.Have happy time discovering the beauty of Women!!

Focus - necessity of the day

It's 1:08 pm by my watch.It's Thursday today.I am at home trying to compile this post. I work in CSC.I shuld have been in the office hitting the IBM keyboard to get some code up and runningon Mainframe. But I m not.

What ud have made me sit and write this post at this time? There are numerous.But one reason stands out.A few days back I was watching 'Titanic' on Star Movies.Remember the scene where DeCaprio is painting the portrait of Kate Winslet with only diamond necklace on her.She asks, "arent' you blushing, Mr painter" and Decaprio replies, "it's all about painting the landscape". That's focus.Focus of a painter, an artist.

We all are artists in one way or the other.And definitely needs to be focussed to get going happily in our life.Focus helps us to set and define our priorities as at any point of time in our life we may have a lot of things to achieve and accomplish.But it's only human to not able to achieve all of them with perfection.And this is where focus and setting priorities come up.

Remember the college days.Some guys would be too busy working to score perfect 10.Toiling day and nite to impress the Profs. Some would be sleeping all the day with bottle of whisky on study table, bunking classes, living on proxies. Some could always be found hanging out with gals or loitering in vicinity of gal's hostel.All were focussed in one way or the other. One decided to focus on studies, the other on enjoying life and the another one on flirting. Acceptable.

But yeah what was the rite decision? No one knows. It's the person himself who has to take that decision and that what takes him to a different route.But yeah u have to be focussed.That's the bottomline.

I remember when we would tease some of our friends in my grad year who had the penchant of always being found at Nescafe with one or the other gal.We would ask,,"Bhaiya, be Focussed.".And the reply ud happen to be anything from "I am enjoying spending time with them" to "I am testing her ATTITUDE" to "AM trying to FOCUS".Guys know what they r doing.Gals know what they r doing.Focus could be different.Both of them may live in illusions.

Focus is required to achieve some purpose.Purpose which unflolds easy going life for one. Fillers around that Purpose may not require Focus.

Lecture on Focus ends here.Have a Nice time Focussing (on) the rite things;-)

"Professionalism" - my interpretation..

It's been 2 years working in the IT industry and like every IT junta I have learnt the bads and goods of this Industry...

The Industry is so large that u can't miss finding the variety of junta u may be loooking for.Uniqness of personalities brings flavor to the working environment,makes it lively and surely challenging.U can find people talking about being professional synonymus with being smart in our daily life.When I was in college, I was intrigued by the term "bein practical" and when I joined industry I fell into the trap of "being professional". What the hell this means?

Professionalism as many define is all about being smart enuf to return home from workplace unscathed.To work no more than what u r being paid for i.e no of hrs to work ~ amount of paisa coming to one's salary a/c.Nice definitions!!

But when a defintion hints of being irresponsible, I would say that's an unacceptable one and such a smartness is self defeating and void in nature.Many times people tend to believe and practice such a hollow definition of professionalism.They laugh at others when they forget that they themselves are the center stage of laughter.Sooner or later they learn the lesson of true professionalism.

In my opinion, professionalism is all about being responsible, being able to motivate others to be the same.It' s about being interested in contributing to the cohesiveness of a team.It's about respecting each other's potentials , rather than coronating oneself as the "smarter" one.Believe me that's suicidal and self-mockery of oneself. Smart is okay,Smarter may not be.It's certainly difficult to have flamboyant personal relationship with evryone at the work-place but we can always have good professional relationship with every1.Afterall that matters more at the work-place. Professional smartness is not at all about being able to mange to work less and pass on the blame for the same to others.Such an smartness is illusionary in nature.It may work somehwere but is bound to put one in deep shit at every other place.

I guess I shud put FULL STOP now.So it goes here.